Here are some typical questions you might have about how to use our website, however don’t hesitate to contact us with any questions or comments or to add any more FAQ’s to this page. You can send a private message to @greent64 or send email to or send us a chat message through the chat widget.

How do I update my profile photo?
Click on Profile page (on top menu) and then click on Change Profile Photo. You will be asked to upload a photo and crop it to smaller size. There is a minimum size for profile photo and if your photo is too small it might not be accepted. Please keep your images above 150px in width and height to ensure they are accepted. Please try to upload nice quality photos to ensure your profile (and our site) looks good (no low quality grainy photos please). Some members photos are displayed on the home page and the better your photo, the better chance of new members joining to talk to you!

You cannot remove your profile photo – all members are required to have a profile photo of their face and those without will be removed from the site. We are strict about that so please do not test this theory.

How do I update my basic Profile information?
Click on Profile page (on top menu) and click on Edit to update your profile fields.

How do I add my interests and additional information to my profile
Click on Profile page (on top menu) and select More About Me – to add information such as About Me, Interest and My Ideal Date. There is an Interest search field in the search form so we encourage you to add this to your profile to allow someone to find you based on your interests.

How do I add additional photos to my profile?
Click on Profile page (on top menu) and select Media on the grey icons menu. You can add several images or other media to your profile.

How do I change my email address and/or site password?
Click on Profile Settings (on top menu). Select General if it’s not already select, and you will see fields to update your email and password. If your current email is incorrect, you will not be able to change it yourself as the email change requires confirmation through the old email. Please send a chat message to admin or email from another address at and we will change it for you.

How do I hide my profile from other members?
Click on Profile Settings (on top menu) and select Privacy and choose from options.

How do I find members in my area or by any other qualities such as gender or age
Click on Members page on (on top menu) and you will see a search form on top of the page. Select all the criteria for your search and click on Search button. You can also just view recently registered members of both genders below the search form.

Where do I see the list of all members?
Click on Members page (on top menu) and then scroll below grid of member faces to click on the link “Click here to view all members”. Alternatively you can go to to see all members and select to view them by Last Active, Newest Registered or Alphabetical. This is a great way to see who’s active on the site and increase your chances of response.

How do I view a member’s profile?
Click on a member’s photo (you can do that from Members page or Activity page or any other page where member photos are visible) and you will be taken to their Profile page. Select Profile icon to view their basic information or click on any icon links to see their Friends, Groups or Media to view additinal photos.

How do I contact another member?
Click on a member’s photo and you will be taken to their Profile page. Underneath their photo, you can select to add them as a friend, send a private or public message. Public message will be available to see on the site. Private message will go directly to the member and will not be seen by anyone else. You can also contact online members through the Chat widget on the right side of your screen and send them a chat message (bottom of the screen on mobile).

Where do I view my new and old messages?
When you receive a new message, you will see an aqua button appear next to Messages on your top menu. You will also see an aqua button next to Notifications on the menu. Click on Messages to view your new and old messages.

How do I send a new message when I’m in my profile?
Select Messages icon (envelope) and click on Compose. Type in members @username ( not nickname) to send them either a private or public message i.e @greent64 (admin’s username)

How do I join a group?
Click on Groups (on top menu) and you will see a list of all groups on Green Tea and Coffee. You can either scroll to view groups or you can use search form. To join, you can either click Join Group right away on the group you’re interested in, or click on the photo to explore the group and it’s members first. There is additional Join Group button once you are viewing the group.

Can I create a group? How do I do that?
Yes, all members can create a group based on their interests or location. Once you are in the Groups list page, click on Create a Group button below the search form and follow the prompts to create a group. You can add a group photo or background but please keep in mind us (admin) reserve the right to change the image to maintain the website’s integrity and look and feel. This will especially refer to images uploaded that are of low photographic or pixel quality. You can also ask us to create/upload a group photo and background.

Can I invite a member to a group?
Yes, all members can invite other members however you need to be friends with that member first.
To invite a member, first you must be inside of that group’s page. Select Send Invites on the icon menu ( arrow) and select a member or members from the list of your friends that will appear. Click Send Invites.

Can I add photos and videos to a group?
Yes, you can. However, you must be a member of that group to add photos/videos. To add media, go inside the group page, click on Media icon (3d box) and click on Options to add an Album or Upload to upload media directly to the Group’s wall.

How do I leave a group?
The same way you have joined a group, either click on Leave Group button while you are in the Group lists view, or while you are inside of the group – under the group image.

Is all site activity posted on the wall?
Yes, all site activity is visible on the wall except private messages and chats. If you join a group, update a photo, upload a photo/video, comment on a member photo, post a public message in a group or to a site wall, it will be visible on the activity wall.  You can however, delete the activity on the wall and it will also remove that activity on your Profile activity tab. It will not delete the activity itself, but only the notification that it happened. Certain activities will give you options to keep them private.

Can I view just the activity for certain groups or my friends?
Yes, you can filter the activity page based on groups, your friends, or when someone mentioned you (Mentions tab) or view the entire site’s activity.

Can I post a comment to a Site Activity Wall?
Yes, you can post a comment using text box at the top of the Activity page. You can also select to post directly in your profile, a group or if you make no selections, the comment will be posted directly to the wall.

Can I get a refund?

You will receive a refund if you cancel within 3 days (day of sign up counts as day 1). After 3 days, we are unable to refund the fee.

Members who signed up with a trial period are not eligible for a refund after the trial ends.

How do I cancel membership?
You can cancel your membership by going to page and selecting “Cancel” under My Memberships section. This will cancel your membership and revoke your access to the member areas immediately as well as remove your profile from our member feed and search.

Your membership cancellation will trigger the PayPal or Stripe and cancel the scheduled payments. You will receive an email confirmation of cancelled payments. If you have not received a cancellation email within 24 hours, please let us know.

If you cancel your PayPal subscription directly on PayPal website and not actually cancel the membership, your membership will be cancelled by us as well. Please only cancel the subscription by cancelling the membership itself when you are done with using our site.

Repeated cancellations
In order to avoid trial period (and refund period) abuse, US and Canada subscription members who sign up and cancel their membership within trial more than once in a short period of time, might not be allowed to re-join our site after 2nd cancellation (within trial or refund period). We will determine if member should be banned after reviewing the sign up pattern. We offer a very reasonable membership price and members who attempt to cancel/re-join repeatedly to avoid the fee, are not able to join anymore.

What happens if my payment fails?
If your payment fails at the fee collection time, PayPal will automatically attempt to collect the fee again in 5 days and we will contact you to help resolve it. If Stripe payment fails, we will contact you re failed Stripe payment and give you a timeframe to update your credit card (48hrs or so) on our site. If the 2nd payment also fails, your membership will be downgraded at that time.

Do you use member photos in ads?
We don’t use member photos in advertising such as Google Ads however we occasionally might use member photos to promote our site in social media such as Facebook or Instagram.

How old is this site?
We have started operating in September 2017.

What made you create this site?
We are an AMWF couple (a web designer and a teacher/writer) who met on a similar site few years ago (now defunct). We saw a niche and opportunity to recreate it but better. We are constantly improving and adding new features to the site to make it for a richer and fun experience and create a sense of community and understanding for our members. Thanks for joining us. We love working on this project.

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