Intercultural Relationships: Underneath We Are All The Same

Guest post by Sheerpurple, edited by Green Tea and Coffee.

It’s thought-provoking when I hear people say that a relationship will not work out because the couple is from different cultures. I believe, if a person wants to learn about another’s culture, they will take the time and put forth the effort to do so. This creates an awesome opportunity to bond while learning about each other’s lifestyles and differences. And there will be differences, as there are in all types of relationships, not just intimate ones.

Once, I told a friend of mine that we have more in common than we do differences. I am a true believer that God made us in His image but also made us all individually unique. We all have the same basic physical features that make up the human body. The only differences are the shapes and complexions.

In Jamaica, where my family is from, we have a food called “dumplings”. I am sure everyone pictures their version of what a dumpling looks like. Jamaican dumplings are thick with no filling inside and is made of flour and water. It is all dough and it is delicious when served with meat or fish. We all use flour and water in various ways, yet we think our cultural food is the best and is second to none. It does not take away from the fact that dishes from different cultures are just as tasty and nutritional, too.

The same goes for people. It can be disheartening how some parents will be alarmed because their child decided to date outside of their culture. I believe love conquers all. Love will always prevail, but only if you stand up for it. For instance, a loving couple who has an issue with their parents must stand up for each other, no matter what. Now, don’t get me wrong, never disrespect your elders. They are the elders, always respect them, it is imperative, but that does not mean that you must always agree with them. Their fear can be caused by lack of knowledge or some stereotypes of that culture, and hopefully as they get to know your other half, their misconceptions will be dissolved.

The best feeling in the world is having a partner who truly loves you despite your shortcomings or some minor cultural or other differences. Some folks may say that there is no such thing as a perfect person, but I believe there is. For me, the perfect guy would be a gentleman who has enough good qualities that shadow the bad qualities.

Remember, before we become friends with someone, we are strangers. Let’s take the time to learn about each other, allowing growing to love the other person or at least learn to like them.

Here’s to a safe, warm, cozy place we call love. I hope and pray we all find that person.

What are your views on inter-cultural relationships?