Intercultural Relationships: Underneath We Are All The Same
Guest post by Sheerpurple, edited by Green Tea and Coffee.
It’s thought-provoking when I hear people say that a relationship will not work out because the couple is from different cultures. I believe, if a person wants to learn about another’s culture, they will take the time and put forth the effort to do so. This creates an awesome opportunity to bond while learning about each other’s lifestyles and differences. And there will be differences, as there are in all types of relationships, not just intimate ones.
Once, I told a friend of mine that we have more in common than we do differences. I am a true believer that God made us in His image but also made us all individually unique. We all have the same basic physical features that make up the human body. The only differences are the shapes and complexions.
In Jamaica, where my family is from, we have a food called “dumplings”. I am sure everyone pictures their version of what a dumpling looks like. Jamaican dumplings are thick with no filling inside and is made of flour and water. It is all dough and it is delicious when served with meat or fish. We all use flour and water in various ways, yet we think our cultural food is the best and is second to none. It does not take away from the fact that dishes from different cultures are just as tasty and nutritional, too.
The same goes for people. It can be disheartening how some parents will be alarmed because their child decided to date outside of their culture. I believe love conquers all. Love will always prevail, but only if you stand up for it. For instance, a loving couple who has an issue with their parents must stand up for each other, no matter what. Now, don’t get me wrong, never disrespect your elders. They are the elders, always respect them, it is imperative, but that does not mean that you must always agree with them. Their fear can be caused by lack of knowledge or some stereotypes of that culture, and hopefully as they get to know your other half, their misconceptions will be dissolved.
The best feeling in the world is having a partner who truly loves you despite your shortcomings or some minor cultural or other differences. Some folks may say that there is no such thing as a perfect person, but I believe there is. For me, the perfect guy would be a gentleman who has enough good qualities that shadow the bad qualities.
Remember, before we become friends with someone, we are strangers. Let’s take the time to learn about each other, allowing growing to love the other person or at least learn to like them.
Here’s to a safe, warm, cozy place we call love. I hope and pray we all find that person.
What are your views on inter-cultural relationships?
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Excuse me? Minor cultural differences? IT’s huge, maybe some Asian don’t show the entire Asian culture or he isn’t really Asian anymore. Most women want romantic love in kdrama, kpop or AWMF. I find all those insulting.
You make a fair point but I think when Sheerpurple wrote about the minor cultural differences that she was talking from her own experience within AMXF dating
You’re free to speak your mind but to me it feels like unnecessary nitpicking. I appreciate Sheerpurple putting effort into sharing her take on this subject. If you ask me, this article is well put together
I’ve been seeing you quite active on the website. I saw you talking about how you feel like this website turns into a male hating website and I was wondering you felt like that?
I also read that you will assume a woman will lie in a relationship. I don’t want to come off rude so don’t take this the wrong way but I personally believe such mindset has a high chance resulting into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Being skeptic, careful and rational can be good but to such an extreme will start a relationship off on the wrong note
I was curious about your reasoning for seeing feeling like website is turning against men. I have not experienced any slight form of misandry yet. I also wanted to see what you are thinking about my thoughts on your “expecting a woman will lie” statement
You’te also leaving with a little confusion. Not sure what you’re doing on a dating website when you are not interested in hookups or any form of dating
I just noticed that I typed a few mistakes in my last comment
… and I wondering why you felt like that*
I was curious about your reasoning for feeling like this website is turning against men*
You’re also leaving me a little confused*
Wow, thank you Alexander for speaking up on my behalf. I really appreciate that.
@Canuck: I don’t know where to start, I feel like your remark doesn’t have anything to do with my article. I believe you may have experienced something that you haven’t grown from and anything that reminds you of it, triggers you!
You may not realize it, but if I wanted to, I could have been offended by your rebuttal. You came back at me to state ‘YOUR’ culture is huge, as if mine isn’t. I digress.
The minor cultural differences was to imply that we are bigger than our culture, people trumps all things. Anything a man can think and uses his hands to create, will never be more important than a person. Just like God made us, we can never trump God!
Spread love and not hate.
Hate is a waste of energy and it’s destructive, to say the least.
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PS. Thank you!